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Hey, folks! This is an interesting post:
- if you're a tarot reader (or want to be),
- if you're interested in getting a reading (from me or anyone else),
- or if you just want to know more about the different styles of readers.
If none of those three apply to you, you can probably skip reading this one. 🌻
I’ve had some great readings from professional readers, and I’ve given out some pretty amazing ones myself. But lately, although more people have been reaching out to ask for a tarot session, I feel like it’s time to admit it’s not working for me anymore.
I've thought this for a while but I've always been scared to say it. So here goes: I truly believe the best tarot reading is the one you give yourself.
Tarot, the way I use it, strengthens your intuition and builds intimacy with your higher Self. And I believe that when you invite a third party into this relationship, there’s a chance — not a guarantee — that you may end up outsourcing your personal power.
I see it all the time! When someone asks me for a reading to tell them whether they should stay or leave their relationship, the therapist in me gets super uncomfortable. Instead of having me tell you what I think you should do, I’m way more interested in hearing what you feel called to do, and then coming up with a plan on how to get it done.
I used to think I’m “doing tarot wrong” because I believed a good reader should tell the client what they need to know. But now I can admit that I was only doing what I thought I’m supposed to — not what was genuine for me.
If I allow myself to follow what I believe in, it’s really simple:
So here’s a list of things I’m no longer interested in, based on past readings I’ve done for others that left me secretly unfulfilled:
1. I'm not here just to give you advice 🤓
The way I see it, a reader’s duty is to help you hear what your spiritual self is saying. They’re there to help you navigate the noise in the mind that’s drowning out the voice of the soul. They’re not there to speak for your soul.
And this isn’t to say that tarot readings can’t be helpful or supportive. They absolutely can be both, but I disagree that either of these are more important than learning to trust in your own soul’s guidance.
Instead, think of it as different tools for different jobs. Sometimes we just need a listening ear; someone to help refill our cup when it runs low. But if we become dependent on it, and if we never learn to trust ourselves first, that listening ear becomes a hindrance to our own self-development.
This is something I’ve had to reckon with in my own practice. When a client walks away after a reading with me, I’ve been asking myself, “do they just have more information to think about, or have I helped them build more trust in themselves?” And because the answer has been the former one too many times, it’s clearly time for a major shift.
2. I don’t want tarot to hinder your self-development 💪
Here’s a handy little cheat sheet to determine whether a tarot reading is adding to or taking away from your spiritual growth:
3. I don’t want to misuse the tarot 🚮
Tarot is truly an incredible gift. It contains ancient archetypal wisdom so it can easily provide all the support + advice we need to navigate any situation. And I do mean any.
But like I heard someone clever say, whatever has the power to heal also has the power to hurt. And tarot used for the wrong reasons can lead to spiritual bypassing, unhealthy positivity, over-dependence, and increased anxiety.
Misused, tarot can end up eroding the same intuition it’s meant to be strengthening. It can make you dependent on other people’s opinions instead of learning how to search for the answers yourself. It can make you crave false assurances that everything you do will turn out okay, instead of teaching you how to move into the unknown with faith and courage.
Ultimately, instead of helping you live better, tarot can be used to run away from life. And I think it’s really sad for such a powerful tool to leave you worse off, instead of opening you up to a greater way of being.
Tarot has existed in one form or another since the 15th century, and it’s a given that throughout that time there’s been numerous debates about what it’s really for. I like these debates. I think they introduce us to new ways of doing things, which is why tarot is still alive and kicking 600 years later.
Everything here is what I believe in based on my experiences. Part of being human is that your perspective can shift radically from one year to the next, so all this is absolutely true today but might not be five years from now. If you disagree with any part of it, rest easy in the knowledge that I may just evolve to see things from your point of view in the future.